3 Good Reasons Why Old People are Generally Happy


Do you know that old people are generally happy?

I know that mainstream society generally takes old people wrinkled, slow and feeble, wearing thick glasses, use dentures, and walks with a cane and an umbrella when outdoors.

Most people take them as lonely, hardly eat and sleep; can barely see and hear, very difficult to get along with.and very difficult to get along with.

Society considers them a “spent force,” or over the hill – too old to do anything worthwhile or engage in vigorous activities. They are better left alone in the confines of their rooms.

Nothing is farther from the truth, (watch video). In fact, seniors can be as bouncy as you, and probably even happier, too, in a lot of respects. they can be as bouncy as you and happier than you in a lot of respects.

They are not lonely and they can engage in activities you think they can’t, like Ilse Siegler.

Ilse is an 84-yr-old Chicago nurse whose husband died 35 yrs ago and still misses him a lot.

She has eyesight problems and is slower than she used to. But she still swims, runs a social group in her apartment, volunteers in a retirement home and is active with her temple.

“It makes life more enjoyable,” she says. Read more

Great Food Ideas for Seniors to Stay Healthy and Save Money


“You are what you eat,” is an often-said phrase among dieters and dieticians and is very true as you age and your well-being and quality of life hinges on the kinds of food you eat.

As we age our mobility decreases, our heart becomes less active, our senses become duller. All these changes affect our digestive system – digestion and absorption of food becomes less efficient resulting to either loss of weight or undesirable gain.

The bottom line? Elderly people become easy prey to numerous illnesses and medical conditions generically called “age-related diseases.”

Because of this, according to the American Academy of Family Physicians, about 60% of home-care elderly people are malnourished or at risk of becoming one.

The big factor contributing to his dismal realities of senior life is cost. A lot simply can’t afford ‘signature” foods to stay healthy.

The U.S. Department of Agriculture, however, thinks this is due to ignorance or lack of information. It does not take a fortune for seniors to get their daily nutritional requirements. They can easily and cheaply get these from at least two servings of fresh fruits, two and a half servings of vegetables, 1200 mg of calcium (through low-fat milk, yogurt or cheese), 7 ounces of grains (whole grains, not processed), and approximately 65 grams of protein.

To assure you get all these every single day, stick to these great food ideas:

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Warning! Food Supplements may do You more Harm than Good

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Do elderly people need food supplements?

The other day I met a former co-worker I loved interacting with. She’s the kind of girl who, if asked what an IC (integrated circuit) is, will talk about the subject from beginning to end, how it is made, its purpose, number of brands and makers, and so on and on.

That kind of girl (sometimes I can just imagine what her husband goes through in their private moments).

She left the company three years ago and has gone into MLM (multi-level marketing), selling food supplements.

True to form, she asked for a few minutes to discuss her business. I told her that I was rather busy. She went ahead, just the same.

She badgered me with her products, that they were herbal, that they are better than others. Then she cited a lot of people, foremost of them her mother, whose aches and pains disappeared after using her supplements.

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Elderly Poverty: Scary and Disastrous, yet Hidden and Forgotten



Do you know how it is to be poor?Tweet this!

It is to be without a choice. You eat what is on the table, if there is any. You can’t get far because you don’t have bus money; your basic needs are the most basic (if there is such a thing), and you have endless anxiety over unpaid bills, medicines, rent and other obligations.

If you are poor, your friends become as scarce as your meals. You wear the same cloths over and over again until they are so faded or in tatters, and use safety pins to keep your underwear in place.

Sound preposterous? No! I went through these in my late 40s and vowed never to go through it again. It would be like dying a second time

At 67 yrs old, I am not technically in the “poor old people” category though money is still scarce. But my excellent support system has made life bearable enough to be enjoyable.

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Warning! Are You getting Old?


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Yesterday I had a great time with three of my regular coffee buddies. One was a 62 yr-old lawyer, the other a 65 yr-old city councilor and the third, a 62 yr-old businessman. I am the oldest at 67.

By any measure, we are old, or, diplomatically, “elderly people.” We even have the medical conditions to prove it: the lawyer is insulin-dependent (he never goes out without his test kit and his injection), the city councilor goes for dialysis twice a week, while the businessman cannot pin down his specific ailment (he has plenty), except that drinking coffee and milk give him a bad case of diarrhea.

While I don’t have any medical condition (my daughter has grown tired of asking me to go for a check-up), but I have a maintenance pill for hypertension, and have made peace with the more-than-a-dozen body aches and pains I feel in any given day (I can’t go up or down staircases without handrails).

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3 Midlife Changes that can affect Your Sex Life


Is sex important?

You bet! “Sex is an important aspect of every relationship – sometimes even more important than we would dare to admit…Emotions will feed your soul, food will keep the body functioning, but there’s one thing that can feed them both at once – sex,” wrote Jelena Javonovic

As men grow older, however, sex takes on a new shape, a new meaning, probably new ways of execution, and definitely in frequency. Not, perhaps, because you have had so many of it to make it feel like, “what’s new?”kind of thing – but more of the changes imposed on you by aging.

Though a lot of middle-aged men will still claim to be sexually active at their age (more fiction than fact), but medical science says that male testosterone starts going down at 30. By 40 to 50, depending on one’s health, a man’s tank has just enough gas to avoid a crash landing or get to the nearest filling station.

Other than the pituitary glands testosterone-production capacity limitations, other changes will occur, physically, mentally and emotionally, that directly impact man’s sex life.

The three most common are:


1. Physiological Changes:
As men age, so do their bodies. They start having aches and pains, on top of other potentially sex-inhibiting medical illnesses like diabetes, heart problems, arthritis and many more.

Their knees, hips, and backs get in the way of torrid sex, their stamina can’t take them a few steps away from the starting line, and their huge bellies make penetration like going over a road hump.

All these may be minor things to more sex-determined guys, but can be inhibiting to most that they start taking sex more of an ordeal than a pleasure – unwittingly feed erectile dysfunction, a very distressing sexual health condition common among men at 40 and beyond.


2. Psychological Changes:
In their younger years, men took sex as an exercise of having their penis hard enough to get in, do its job, and then get out – doggie style in the strictest sense of the word.

For family-inclined guys, it is to make babies.

In both cases, however, at midlife they will realize that a really exciting and satisfying sex is not a solo performance but a duet. Feelings of intimacy drive sexual desire, not animalistic instinct.

They will soon realize that to dance well, they must dance together – one beautifully time step after another to the precise beat of their passionate love making.
And they will experiment several dance styles. They will try the tango, the waltz, foxtrot, and, for more variation, the Gangnam style.

They will experiment with other forms of intercourse like oral sex or the Old Man’s sex.

Story has it that an 80 yr-old guy was showing off his newly born baby with his 18 yr-old wife.

“Isn’t she beautiful”? he pointed at his daughter to his friends. Then continued, “And she’s handmade, too.”


3. Emotional Changes:
At midlife, man’s muscle mass softens as well as his emotions; as his belly grows, so does his patience (hopefully). He becomes considerate, tolerant, indulging, and compassionate.

Sex takes on a new personality. Rather than the fast-food he once took it to be now it is fine-dining.

He doesn’t do it often enough, but when he does, he does it in style – perfect ambiance, excellent wine, a violinist by his table and everything the house can offer.

He consults with her partner what she would like to order, and, while eating, frequently asks her endearing questions whether she finds the food good, or is it cooked just right, or does it suit her tastes?

When necessary, he foregoes his own pleasures so his partner can have more of it. He would even indulge her to a second or third serving, just to make sure she has her fill of passionate excitement.

Sex at the emotional level is the most satisfying, most lasting and most memorable. It is what solid relationships are built on. It binds man and woman together.

What’s your take on this? I am sure you have volumes of sexual experiences to share. Please feel free to do so in the Comments section. It will be very informative and entertaining to others.


7 Simple Ways to Enjoy Life a Little Longer


A mid 40s guy, and obviously obese, went to see his doctor for chest pains.

After asking him the usual question and taking down his medical history, the doctor told him that his vital signs are normal but that he should spare an hour a day to exercise his excess fat away.

“Doctor, I don’t think I can fit an hour of exercise into my busy schedule,” protested the guy.

“I understand,” the doctor calmly told his patient. Then added, “So tell me, what easily fits in your schedule, an hour of exercise a day or to be dead 24 hours a day?”

This might seem a sick joke but there’s plenty of truth in this dry humor. According to 2010 statistics, a whopping 30.8% of Americans between 45 and 64 are obese, of which 1 in 5 will die from according to a study published online in August the by the American Journal for Public Health.

Particularly susceptible are men in their 40s and above because of career demands, apathy, laziness, or plain resignation to the aging effects on their bodies. The irony is that they waste no time in seeing their doctor once they feel chest pains, swollen joints, high cholesterol, or their blood sugar start to taste as sweet as honey, and many other illnesses.

This attitude towards health is sometime incomprehensible. If florists spray their flowers with chemicals to make them look fresh a few more days, and groceries refrigerate their meat and fruit stocks to avoid early rot, a lot of midlife men leave their wellness and health to chance even if it costs practically nothing.

For example, these seven simple ways have proven that life need not start wilting at midlife.


1.  Live Clean:
I don’t mean hygienically clean, though it counts a lot. Regular bathing cleans up your pores, allowing your body to breath, makes you feel fresh, enhancing your mood.

Living clean refers more to your lifestyle and the choices you make that can support or make it a living hell.

It means eating the right kinds of food. It does not necessarily mean going on a diet, but more on eating foods rich with vitamins and minerals your body needs to ward off aging-related illnesses, energy and stamina.

It means keeping away from too much fat, too much carbohydrates and too much salt.

Clean living means regular physical activity to keep away heart problems, obesity, diabetes, osteoporosis and depression, to name a few.

A 30 min of brisk walking at least three times a week, or mowing the lawn or cleaning the car is sufficient enough to keep your system well-oiled and functioning.

If you regularly warm up your car to keep it always well-lubricated, why can’t you do the same of your body?

Keep away, or control your cigarette, or alcohol consumption. Definitely keep away from drugs. These are the major causes of early deaths among men in midlife.


2.  Have a family or personal doctor:
You need not have a specialist. A general practitioner will do. But someone you can play golf or fishing with, and can chill out with on a personal level.

He must be trusted to hold your in confidentiality your most personal medical and personal secrets, and a wide network or specialists he can refer you to, just in case.

And, of course, he can be reached by phone anywhere he may be, any time of the day.


3.  Have an positive attitude for life:
Midlife crisis opens a lot of men to feelings of depression.

While we all have bouts of depression due to unmet expectations, relationship and work problems, children who fail to measure up, and many other things, be careful not to let them rule your life for more than a day, or a week. If they last longer than that, you are in for the very nasty clinical depression.

Immediately see a doctor if it does. Depression is deadly. But it can be cured if nipped in the bud.


4.  Avoid injuries and other illnesses:
Our sense of balance deteriorates as we age, our hearings are impaired, and our eyesight becomes less than 20.20. All these can cause accidental falls, leading to injuries.

Osteoporosis, a bone problem caused by calcium deficiency, is a common illness among men in their 50s. In fact a study shows that men in this age bracket have a higher risk of breaking a bone anytime soon.

Be sure to strap on your seat belts when driving, and remove unnecessary obstacles in your home that may cause you to trip and fall.

Old bones don’t heal as well and as fast as young ones.


5.  Have regular sex:Tweet this!
I am not kidding. Sex is good, sex is healthy, and it is one damn good exercise. Studies show that ejaculating at least three times a week prevents prostate cancer.

But how, with erectile dysfunction weighing down on your penis like a ton of bricks?

That’s why you need to have someone who is not only a doctor but a friend, as well. Someone you can talk about erectile dysfunction freely and unabashedly without being laughed at.

There’s really nothing to be prudish about this bane of midlife men. Ask any of your 30 or 40 something buddies. They all are experiencing the same thing.

They might even recommend to you some under-the-counter drug to make to enhance your sex drive and performance.


6.  Get your affairs in order:
Midlife is the perfect time to get your affairs in order. Draw out a will if you must. Buy lots of life and medical insurance to spare your family financial loss should you fall down with a serious illness or even death.

Make peace with your God and those you have offended or those who offended you.

Midlife is the best time to be yourself; free from any hang-ups, from any unresolved issues, from any secrets you have failed to tell your partner.

Your kids (if you have any) are already grown-up, have families of their own and children, too. Reach out to them and give them your best hug and say, “I love you.”

Don’t worry if it surprises them (They usually are). Midlife is the time to pull off a few surprises of your own.

It is the time to have a life.


7.  Make a change for the better:
Midlife if the time to start making a legacy, too. If you must, leave something that can make people smile, something that can make them remember you with kindness and compassion.

I don’t want to appear ominously morbid, but at midlife, you are at a vantage point where you can clearly see your past and the experience to chart a course for the future.

It is the time for reawakening – to straighten out your past mistakes, and to resolve to do better in the years to come.

Do it now. It will make your journey so many times easier, fruitful and meaningful.